Christian views on dating non christians
Christian views on dating non christians - 18 and 16 year old dating
Throughout our relationship he’s really encouraged me in my faith … But I do not know how to handle the simplistic thinking from many members of the church who think that my relationship is wrong—that I should either end it, or be living in sin. I’ve been dating this man for two years now and he prepared me that he’ll be making a proposal soon.But when we announced our engagement I received a few emails from the pastor saying the Bible is clear that the relationship is wrong and that I need to end it. I knew that, out of love, I would receive some hostility from Christian friends, but it is getting to the point where I do not want to go back to church, because of the volume of people telling me to end the relationship—when they cannot give me a reason for doing so, other than him being a non-Christian. I was overwhelmed with joy, laughter, and excitement.
So yes, back to the reasons why Christians shouldn't date non-Christians.
The most important piece of advice is that saying he knows Christ doesn't mean he has a relationship with Him.
Marriage based on a common faith is for our benefit, blessing and protection. Make the decision to follow Him and allow Him to help you find the right mate for you.
Everyone (including myself, sometimes) thought I was nuts and couldn't for the life of them understand it.
I'm not sure he did either, and for that I am the most sorry.
But decisions like this do baffle, and so they should and must be clearly explained.
While I do want non-Christians to understand this, I am much more concerned about us Christians.Because from the relationships and attitudes I am seeing around me (and sometimes even in myself), we sometimes forget the ‘why’ and get confused trying to do the what.I think the biggest example of this, and I'm not going to sugarcoat it here, is Christians who extend "dating a Christian" to "dating someone whom I will bring to church", "dating someone who is open to Christianity", or "dating someone who calls himself a Christian but hasn't really been to church in a few years". To do something like that is to miss the point of wanting to date a Christian in the first place.Perfect in the sense that he was almost exactly like me, we liked the same things, had the same tastes, he knew what kind of stuff I would like, we even supported the same football team… All except for the fact that he wasn't a Christian.It didn't matter to me at first, but I think all along at the back of my mind, I knew it would be an issue someday.A few days have gone by since the excitement and my heart is torn, I feel guilty for even dating a man who doesn’t follow Jesus.