Dating healthy men

27-Jan-2017 05:11 by 7 Comments

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, you suggested some ways unmarried people can build healthy relationships and not smother each other. Would you apply the "tough love" principle to those of us who are not married?How does the issue of respect relate to our romantic relationships, and how can we build and preserve it?

Maria isn’t alone in feeling a like failure when it comes to relationships.

The principles of loving toughness are the same for those who are single as for those who have been married for decades.

There are circumstances, however, that are specific to the courtship period.

She was tired of dating and tired of having her heart broken.

A smart, successful, 35 year-old, Maria came to see me for therapy after her third break-up in as many years.

“As we move through our life and dating relationships, it is not unusual for a man or woman to attempt to attach to a person who is not a healthy choice in order to resolve those early issues…

In these cases, the individual has mistaken intensity for intimacy – meaning the chaos or lack of healthy attachment is their ‘normal.’ In a nutshell, their brain associates pain, hurt and betrayal with love.Psychotherapist Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S explains: “…some of the reasons behind this repetitive pattern may include unresolved trauma from your family of origin where healthy (or unhealthy) relationships were modeled for you.Our early family is where human beings first learn about boundaries, attachment, and love.Or maybe your dating history consists only of brief flings and you don't know how to make a relationship last.You could be attracted to the wrong type of person or keep making the same bad choices over and over, due to an unresolved issue from your past.If the person did not have a voice that was heard, understood and valued in their family of origin, if they were required to earn love, if boundaries were wishy washy, if abuse or addiction was part of the modeling, then chances are this person will do all of the heavy emotional lifting, often overcompensating with people who are also wounded and are unwilling or unable to attach and love in a healthy way.” For example, if you developed codependent patterns in childhood, you probably learned care-taking and controlling behaviors in order to survive, and may gravitate towards a partner with addictions or mental health problems or physical impairments who you can take care of and try to “fix.” Changing your relationship habits requires work.

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